One of Those

I was an Administrative Assistant for an electronics company in my 30’s. I worked for two salesmen in the company. The company designed home theaters in the homes of the wealthy.

Many of our clients only lived in our location for the winter months. So, the equipment was installed one year and was only used for a brief time before they traveled back up North. Sometimes when they returned the following year the equipment wasn’t working correctly. Most of the equipment, if not all, had only a one-year warranty.

When the clients returned the following winter, and were having trouble with the equipment, they would call their salesman at our electronics company to inform them about their difficulty. One day one of the salesman I worked for told me about one such client. He told me to go into the database and change the purchase and installation dates on the required forms so that the equipment installed last year would still be covered under the one-year warranty.

I knew this was wrong. I struggled with doing this, because I knew I may be reprimanded for not doing that. I could possibly lose my job. However, if I did it, I could face some serious consequences if it was ever found out by anyone outside of the company I did that. Shoot, I know that if push came to shove that if a legal situation ever developed the blame would be shifted to me by the higher ups in the company. I changed the date. It was my doing. It wouldn’t have mattered if I was told to do it or not. I CHOSE to do it knowing it was wrong. My conscience wasn’t right within me. It was lying.

I procrastinated talking to my boss about his request. I finally told him I couldn’t do that. I told him it was wrong and went against my beliefs of what was right and wrong. I’ll never forget what he said,” Oh, you’re one of those.” He told me he’d change the information himself.

It wasn’t very long when I received a phone call from a woman at work asking to speak to that salesman about the administrative position. I forwarded the call to him and my heart sunk.

I went to the Human Resources employee in the company and asked if I was being replaced. Of course, she couldn’t divulge anything. I’d have to take it up with my boss. I knew this before going in there, but couldn’t help myself. So, I went to my boss and asked him straight out if he was replacing me. He told me he wasn’t and mumbled some other things. At first, I believed him and had a false sense of security. It didn’t last long.

I’d like to say that I didn’t lose my job for standing up for what was right, but I can’t. It wasn’t very long afterwards that he called me into his office and let me go. Apparently, he had found someone else to do his dirty work.

The Bible teaches you are to be submissive to authority. However, it doesn’t mean to be so submissive you go against what God says is right. You should never compromise the truth of God’s word for anyone. After all, it is not them that will pay the consequences. It is you.

A lie is a lie. There is no such thing as a little “white lie”. I hate that expression. A lie is deceptive and hurts the people you lie to no matter what color it is.

Ye shall not steal; neither shall ye deal falsely, nor lie one to another

 Leviticus 19:11

 A faithful witness will not lie; But a false witness uttereth lies.

 Proverbs 14:5

 I’ve set my mind regarding the matter of lying. I’m going to do my best not to lie about anything. What about you?

There’s one situation where I haven’t heard my daughter lie before. I admire her honesty and directness in a situation where it’s hard for anyone not to lie. Have you ever asked someone, “Do I look fat in this?” I bet you have! If you don’t want an honest answer, don’t ask my daughter. I like this about her. I don’t want to go anywhere in an outfit that makes me look five feet wide!

It was tempting at work to do what has always been done. The company who made the equipment and honors the warranty may have never found out I’d changed the dates. However, it is important to me to have integrity. It is important to be trustworthy. It takes courage to stand up and do what’s right when no one else is. Oftentimes, doing the right thing costs you something. It cost me my job.

However, God works those things out that were meant to harm us for our good if we love him. After I was fired, I went to work for a Temporary Agency until I found permanent employment. When I finished one assignment, they’d send me to another company. It was during that time of temporary employment that a company I was temping with hired me permanently at the highest salary I had ever made. It was also a job I had had no experience.

God knows you will be tempted. God knows you will fail sometimes. There is no one that doesn’t fall short of the glory. He just asks that you do your very best.

God is good. He honors those who honor him. I, for one, am proud to be “one of those”.


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Childish Ways

Ever since I was a child, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed playing board games. I would always get so excited when I had a friend or several friends to play with me. My favorite was Monopoly. I can hear some of you groaning. Of course, like anyone would, I loved to win! Who didn’t, right? I particularly enjoyed Monopoly, because I welcomed the challenge of using my mind…being strategic. I had to decide how and when to use my money. I still adore the game of Monopoly.

I introduced board games to my grandson as soon as he became old enough. I still have a great passion for them and wanted to pass on the enjoyment I get from them to my grandson. He is seven years old now, but I remember a time I was just playing with him with his Hot Wheels several years ago. He was about three to five years old.

I stopped by his house one day and was talking to his mom. He kept beseeching me to race some of his Hot Wheels against him. Of course, he picked out the car I could have. They had a fold-up table in the kitchen and he had a makeshift course already mapped out on it for the cars. We competed several times and he won each time (admittedly, I was letting him win). He was having a blast!

During one such race he was running so fast alongside the table, he tripped and his car fell off. Instead of slowing down and waiting for him to recover and reenter the race, I sped up and ran ahead to the finish line. I’ll never forget his reaction! He was so angry at me. I was supposed to let him win! He yelled at me in a very mean way and threw a nice little fit. His mother and I corrected him immediately.

This happened to be the first time I had ever seen him react to losing. From that moment on, I rarely “let him” win. He should learn to lose graciously. After all, he is never going to win all the time. Since he is older now, the “rarely” has turned into “never”. If he wins, he wins fairly. In fact, his mother is never allowed to play games with him anymore, because she plays to win. I’ve made him include her on many occasions. That is not right either.

I was shocked by him not too long ago when we were playing a game and he didn’t react badly when I won. In fact, he asked to play again. Maybe he’d win the next time. He was still disappointed at the fact he didn’t win. However, there was no yelling or tantrums. He’s growing up. He’s maturing.

Acting badly, even hatefully, is what many Americans are doing today over the new President- elect Donald J. Trump. I’m appalled at the attitude I’ve seen displayed on Facebook alone from Hillary supporters against those who voted for him. The meanness has reached a new level. People are unfriending people. I’ve seen posts where family members aren’t talking to one another, because they voted for the opposite candidate. This kind of behavior is not American or Christian! It is childish. It is not godly behavior. In 1 Corinthians 13:11 it says the following:

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child: now that I am become a man, I have put away childish things.

Even if you aren’t a Christian, you shouldn’t be acting like a child. I’ve already seen riots with cars on fire in the streets on the news. Where are the adults? In Romans 13:1-2 it says,

Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.

God is in control. One Facebook friend said that the result of the election had nothing to do with God. The United States voted. Yes, we did vote. Do you think God doesn’t have supreme authority to do what he wants? He does. Remember, God is your source for whatever you need in this life no matter who is the president. Christians are forgetting that fact. Psalm 56:11 says,

In God have I put my trust, I will not be afraid. What can man do unto me?

Psalms 91:2

I will say of Jehovah, He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in whom I trust.

These are just a couple of verses regarding trust in God for a Christian. There are so many more! God is above ALL things. God’s will for America will be done regardless of who we call Mr. President. Continue reading 1 Corinthians 13:3-7:

For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended. For the one in authority is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for rulers do not bear the sword for no reason. They are God’s servants, agents of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer. Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience. This is also why you pay taxes, for the authorities are God’s servants, who give their full time to governing. Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.

Nowhere in this chapter does it say to only do right or show respect if you like the person in authority. Nowhere does it say to do these things only if you agree with everything the person in authority says or does. Yes, some respect is earned. Some respect is simply expected to be given, because of the title or position the person in authority holds. It says in the above passage to do all these things not just in fear of punishment, but because of your conscience…because it is the right thing to do. God doesn’t give exceptions!

I’m primarily talking about the president-elect today, but this applies to EVERY authority figure in your life from your parents, your boss, your pastor and to GOD. It is easier to do these things when you like and agree with the leader. It is easy for ANYONE to do that. It is a true act of your GODLY, CHRISTIAN MATURITY to do these things when you don’t agree with what is said or done or when you don’t like the personality of your leader. If you’re afraid of any outcomes, perhaps what you want or what you are doing isn’t what GOD wants.

One of Hillary Clinton’s campaign commercials stated a fact that the children are watching. YOUR CHILDREN ARE WATCHING! THE WORLD IS WATCHING! WHAT ARE YOU SHOWING THEM? It’s a terrible thing when there’s no way to tell the difference between the children and the adults or Christians and the heathen!

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It’s a Good Thing

Today I’m going to share something very personal, but it will help with my topic of discussion. It’s hard for me to share this as some family read my blog. So, I’m exposing and tattling on myself.

In December of 2010, I was part of a lawsuit entitling me to a substantial amount of money. It would come in different amounts and at varying times.

About a month ago, I received a call from my attorney handling any disbursed funds from this lawsuit. He left me a message he had received a disbursement of a little over 500 dollars. I was so excited!

My husband and I have been living pretty tight. We both in years past had spent too much and put things on credit cards. He had managed to pay off all of the credit cards. Recently, I charged up some more debt on one of the credit cards. I thought I’d spend a little bit and pay off some things with the rest of the money I would receive.

Here’s a long story short. I ended up spending more than the 500 plus dollars and my husband was furious when he went to pay the credit card bill and realized I’d put more money on it. Then, I hadn’t received the check yet and I called my attorney. I had forgotten about his fee being taken out. Over 500 dollars dropped drastically to 350 dollars.

I had put money on the credit card, spent money from my disability check and had spent the cash he had given me for expenses. All added up it was quite a bit of money spent. He had every right to be furious with me.

I had even taken my daughter with me when I spent some of the money and she knew how we were trying not to spend. She asked about it several times, being the voice of reason and extending the word of caution. I had told her I had money coming in and I wouldn’t get dad mad, because it was “extra” money.

Let me tell you something. If you are in debt, no matter how much, there is no such thing as “extra” money. I could have used that money for several things other than what I spent it on. Most importantly, I could have used it to pay on one of the credit card balances.

I didn’t exercise any self-control and I have spent money I shouldn’t have before. Did you know that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit? It says so in Galatians 5:22-23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control…

Ouch! I really hurt listing those, especially the self-control. It is one of the ways people should recognize you as a Christian. The last blog I wrote I honored my husband by talking about how much he shows me he loves me and I said I don’t think I show him enough love. Well, this is one example why I said that. This is one way I should honor my husband that I haven’t been doing. I’m supposed to be the help-mate God intended me to be when he made me.

My husband doesn’t like the words, “I’m sorry”. He says they’re useless words. If you’re really sorry, you should change your behavior. He’s right. It says in the word that a truly repentant man will not only say he’s sorry, but his heart and behavior should be changed too. So, I’m not going to say that to him (he reads my blogs). I’m just going to ask him to forgive me, yet again.

Proverbs 25:28 says the following:

He whose spirit is without restraint is like a city that is broken down and without walls

Where do you lack self-control? Is it drinking, eating, anger, spending or sexual encounters? Where is your struggle?

In 1 Corinthians 5:11 it says,

But as it is, I wrote unto you not to keep company, if any man that is named a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner, with such a one no, not to eat

It says this, because when you are with these sort of people, it is hard to maintain self-control. Are there things or people in your life that make it hard to maintain your self-control? Perhaps it’s time to get rid of them or see someone less often, if at all? Pray about this and take God’s leading.

In Proverbs 25:26 it says,

As a troubled fountain, and a corrupted spring, So is a righteous man that giveth way before the wicked.

As I said above, people know a Christian by their actions. In Titus 2:12, we are told to live a godly life in the earth now.

Instructing us, to the intent that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly and righteously and godly in this present world.

Read the warning in Galatians 5:21

Envyings, drunkenness, revellings, an such like; of which I forewarn you, even as I did forewarn you, that they who practice such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Everything in this life takes self-control in one way or another and of something. There always will be consequences to your lack of self-control. Always. Pray for self-control. Remember, we weren’t told to do this ourselves. Self-control is not an act of will power as the world would have you believe. Self-control is decisions constantly made each moment of our lives. It is a fruit of the Spirit every Christian should strive to achieve. The good news is that God will help you attain it.

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