Who Are You?

Hello to all my readers! God Bless you all! I want to explain why I haven’t posted. First of all, I was very sick for over two weeks. I had Walking Pneumonia for one week. That went away, but it left me with bad Bronchitis for another week and a half or more. Then, while I was ill, my father-in-law went to the emergency room. He ended up having major surgery and is still in the hospital. After I was well, my in laws were in need of help. So, I was running back and forth between the hospital, home and doctor appointments I had to keep, playing catch-up for the physical therapy I had missed, playing catch-up with training classes for my dog, Axel, and trying to keep up laundry, dishes and cook a decent meal once in a while (my husband helped a lot at the basic housekeeping while he was home. Thank you Babe). During all of this, my husband and I also became newly empty nested. My house is a wreck due to reorganizing, etc. now that I have more room. I am still behind on housecleaning, but I couldn’t neglect you any longer. Tomorrow it would have been five weeks since I’ve posted. I certainly hope you all understand my predicament as a person can only be torn in so many directions. So, on with my post…

Have you ever observed someone’s life and thought to yourself how you would do things differently if you were them? Have you ever asked yourself questions about why they do things the way they do? Well, you aren’t them and it’s none of your business. I have and God has certainly dealt with me regarding being judgmental.

As I stated in the first paragraph, my father-in-law ended up going into the emergency room during the time I was ill. He was admitted to the hospital and after about two weeks ended up having major surgery.

The day of his surgery, my husband, daughter and I went to the hospital to wait with my mother-in-law. It was a long surgery. When the surgery was over and my father-in-law was sent to recovery, my husband told me to go into the consultation room with his mom.

His mom and I sat on the consultation room couch while the doctor explained the surgery and what he did. As he was talking, my mother-in-law started to shake and tear up. I put my arm around her. Afterwards, we left the consultation room. I turned my head to look at her and said something to her about everything was going to be okay. As I said this she started to cry. I folded her into my arms and just held her a few minutes.

They were tears of unexpressed fear and relief that her husband was okay. When my husband and I were finally home that night, I contemplated about the day’s events. I thought to myself about the raw and whole-hearted love I had seen on her face when she came out of the consultation room and began to cry after realizing her husband was okay.

My in-laws have been together for many years and I had never thought about how much they love one another. All I had allowed myself to see was the unwarranted, so I thought, sacrifices she made for him. For example, she used to love to paint and was very good at it. For many years now she has stated how she wouldn’t go into the other room to paint, because it would leave him alone in the living room to watch television by himself. Boy! I used to get annoyed hearing this! I didn’t understand this as my husband and I have a different kind of relationship.

They are also retired and don’t do much of anything, except take care of their house, lawn and watch television. It seemed to me that the extent of excitement in their lives was which of their favorite shows was on that night. I always say I will have more excitement in my life when I’m her age than what is on television that night or going to Wal-Mart. I don’t understand this. I also see many people their age that are, in my opinion, more vibrant, alive and more active! My husband and I would talk about it. I would often say to him and others (gossip is another blog all together. This is also wrong) that she acted like she had one foot in the grave and was just waiting to die. I think all of this is ridiculous and such a waste of a life. Life is about living, I often think! Well, here is a news flash to me from God…

WHO CARES ABOUT MY OPINION!? They certainly don’t and no one else I had mentioned it to does. Is there anyone in your life you do this too, if only in your mind? Read Matthew 7:1-5

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged.  For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye…”

Jesus said these words. I have been a hypocrite. What about you? I realize I have been a hypocrite about many people whether they have known it or not. God knows it and, now, I do too. This is not to be confused with Matthew 7:15-20

“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them…”

Jesus said these words also warning you of people who “say” they are God’s minister or people who “say” they are a Christian. Yes, in some cases you are to judge, but with righteous judgment. He says by their fruit you will know and recognize them. In other words, they may “say” they are a minister of God, but how do they live their life? Do they have a heart for God and God’s ways? Someone may “say” they are a Christian, but do they exhibit any of the fruits of the Spirit (I’m not talking about someone who is newly saved here), such as peace, joy, love, etc. that is found in Galatians 5:22

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

I’m not saying every Christian will have ALL these qualities either. After all, the only perfect one is Jesus Christ. However, I believe you get my point.

I just wanted to explain the difference. So many people misquote the Bible saying you don’t have a right to judge a person, because you aren’t supposed to judge anyone. No, you aren’t as I quoted in Matthew 7:1-5 above. You are no better than anyone else. God doesn’t think you are more special than anyone else. God is no respecter of persons. God doesn’t have favorites. See Romans 2:11

For God does not show favoritism.

However, you are to judge if a person is truly godly or not, whether they be a minister or someone you are considering to be a friend. Look at their fruit, as Jesus would say, especially if you are a Christian already. Look at their life. Do they live a Godly life? The wrong association can destroy you. If you are a business owner you should understand this concept. My mother always warned me to be careful who I hung around or called my friends. Did your parents tell you that too?

My father-in-law is still in the hospital. They’ve never been apart the whole time they’ve been married and she hasn’t left his side the whole time he’s been in the hospital. I see the love of God shown by my mother-in-law to her husband. She is not a Christian either. God uses everything and everyone to correct me.

Don’t YOU hate it when others say what they would do if they were you? I’m not saying not to take good advice from trusted sources. I’m asking about the nosy people. It’s none of their business, right? Who are they? Who is it you think those things about and talk about? I ask you. Who are you?

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4 comments on “Who Are You?
  1. Freddie says:

    interesting article and wake up call.


  2. Crystal Boisvert says:

    Very good Tammee! Missed you 🙂


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