Today, I’m going to deal with an issue I struggle with myself, low self-esteem. I see images everywhere of what I should look like. All of them show me a tall, skinny woman with flawless teeth and an amazing figure. They have beautiful, sun-kissed skin with perfectly applied make-up and their nails are always done.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying if you are a physically beautiful woman this is a bad thing. I’m not picking on you personally. This is still for you. If you are a woman, you struggle with low self-esteem or have in the past.
Who is it that sets the standards anyway? I would venture to say it’s not just runway models and television shows, but perfect, naked women all over the internet, magazines and in movies. It seems like the advertising industry alone can’t sell anything from cars, motorcycles and guns to clothes and chewing gum if it doesn’t include the “ideal” woman.
The world can make you feel like less of a woman if you aren’t beautiful by their physical standards. Where does that leave the rest of us that aren’t runway models, celebrities and older than forty? What if you are ill or born with a disability of some kind? What if you have a skin condition like psoriasis or are a burn victim? There are no shades of grey allowed in the world. You are not accepted in the world unless you fit into their box of what is beautiful.
I know I sound angry about all of this. I am. We live in a society that places too much importance on your outer appearance. I said all this to lead to the following:
You are loved by God. He made you the way you are. Psalm 139:13-14 says,
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
One definition in Strong’s Dictionary of “fearfully” is to “revere”. “Revere” means to regard with respect tinged with awe.
God created you and He doesn’t make mistakes. He thinks you’re awesome! He loves you whether you are short or tall, thin or fat, a blonde or a redhead. He doesn’t care what nationality you are or if you’re a housekeeper or a CEO. He doesn’t care how pretty your face or body is. God cares about your heart condition. He looks at what’s inside. Some of the most beautiful people of the world are very ugly.
You are very valuable to God. Jesus said,
“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”
These are just a few mere words Jesus said to his disciples. You get the point. God even loves and protects them. If God cares so much for a bird of very little value, how much more does he care for you?
When I look in the mirror, I see the extra seventeen to twenty pounds I need to lose. I see the spider veins on my legs. I see my hair thinning on top. I see my muscles aren’t as firm as they used to be. I see a few extra wrinkles on my face that weren’t there before when I smile. I see the stretch marks on my stomach and elsewhere from two pregnancies. I see all kinds of physical changes in my body that I don’t like. I’m sure you do too, especially if you are older or have had children. However, you are beautiful and so am I. “I am wonderful and beautiful.” Say this out loud to yourself today until you believe it.
God doesn’t see the outer appearance. He looks at your heart. In the second chapter of I Chronicles, God told King David to make his son, Solomon, king over Israel. Here is a small bit of advice King David gave to Solomon:
“As for you, my son Solomon, know the God of your father, and serve Him with a loyal heart and with a willing mind; for the Lord searches all hearts and understands all the intent of the thoughts…”
I Chronicles 28:9
There is no need to be jealous (which is ungodly anyway) of other women. For instance, you can see a beautiful woman walk by and think she is the most beautiful woman you’d ever seen. You’d be surprised at what issues she has with her self-esteem. Women are very hard on themselves about their appearance. There is always going to be something you don’t like. However, what you don’t like about your outer appearance and have control over, change. What you can’t change, accept. As far as your heart goes, give it to God. Only God can change your heart.
However, to get past low self-esteem, you need to know how much God loves you. He knit you together in the womb, every hair on your head is numbered, etc. I will explore more about what the Bible says about God’s love for you and about jealousy in the following weeks.
Remember, you are awesome and wonderful. When you begin to doubt this, ask yourself, “What does God think of me?” After all, His opinion is the only one that matters.
I want you listen to this song on YouTube. It’s called “Every Bit of Lovely” by Jamie Grace (I do not own this song. I just want to refer you to this song to uplift you) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yglPfaDMtaA.
I love this song and its message.
God Bless you this week!